How to prevent that your guy pays too much attention to the other chick during a threesome?
|Threesomes require a delicate balancing act on many levels, most of them emotional. And with something this intimate the smallest thing can tip that balance to where the fun is gone and you feel like it needs to stop right there and then.
It’s easy to get swept up
One of the worst things that can happen is if you feel that your guy is too much into the other girl. He is after all your guy, and at the very least you’d probably like to feel like he’s still just your guy when it’s all said and done.
Sure, you understand his desire to explore new delights, you wouldn’t be here if that wasn’t a turn-on for you also; the soft feel of a woman’s skin, the exciting touch of her nipples, the delicious warm wetness between those thighs, what’s not to like?
And while it’s always nice to have somebody go down on you, it’s even more spectacular when someone else is passionately kissing you and caressing your breasts simultaneously. The same goes for a lot of other things which are awesome to do together, but even more mind blowing with erotic stimulation happening at other places at the same time.
It’s a whole different thing to feel like an outsider though, and that must be prevented at all cost.
So here’s what you do
Communication and having alternatives ready are the keys here.
The alternatives are things you can do instead of the things you are uncomfortable with, and it’s always good (and fun) to take some time to come up with some of those beforehand. The less time you take moving from an unwanted situation to a comfortable one the better, as you’ll see in the example a little later.
A large part of the communication is discussing with both of them beforehand the things you don’t think you’ll be comfortable with, and make sure they both are aware of those rather than just having them smile, nod and forgetting it right away.
Then, say something like “If at any point I’m not comfortable with what’s going on, would you mind if I say so right away and we try something different?”
That way, if they agree, it’ll be a natural rather than an awkward thing when it occurs.
For example, all three of you are entwined, and while he’s playing with both of your pussies you’re sucking his cock while she’s licking his balls. You exchange his hard member for her soft tongue every so often, and it’s all good.
You move up to kissing him on the mouth, but he’s not even paying attention to that because she’s now sucking him off and apparently it just feels too good. That little moment of you getting shunned can be such a big deal, much bigger to you than you would’ve expected, and it’s perfectly okay to say “hey, I’m not so comfortable with you going down on him at the moment, can we try something else?”
As long as you say it in a calm and friendly voice, and seamlessly move on to something like entwining yourself with her while stroking his dick with your hand, the moment will pass on without any lingering awkwardness.
Here you also see how important it was to have an alternative handy to move on to right away; since you had spent some time coming up with one beforehand the transition was flawless. Compare that to all three of you sitting around mulling it over for a minute, an awkward mood killer to say the least.
There will always be foreseen and unforeseen moments like that, so the more prepared you all are to deal with those, the better.