(Continued from the Amateur Couple cover story)
Chances are you don’t have the confidence and experience yet to make things like that happen (girls can always tell), or simply don’t know where to look. If you are lucky enough to be a couple that has a relationship strong enough to spice things up, but need some help getting started, here are a few things that we have learned along the way.
Imagine
The ideal experience is different for everybody, but you at least need to go in with an idea of what you would like to try. If you and your partner sit (or lay) down and discuss a few scenarios, you’ll not only make the build-up process more fun and interesting, you’ll also discover more about what you both expect out of the experience. We found out a lot about what girls that look for married couples (or any type of couples) like from their profiles at dating sites. The girls that specify they are looking for couple threesomes usually give you some good descriptions of what they do and don’t want (more about those sites later).
Easy does it
While a hot passionate threesome might be the ultimate goal, you’ll also want to make sure it was an experience that everybody enjoyed enough to do again, right?
So look for signs, if someone seems uncomfortable with what goes on, try something different. You don’t have to get everything in the first or second time (no pun intended), leave something to look forward to! It’s also cool to revisit the highlights afterwards and maybe build on those.
Spend as little time as possible on the parts that did not work, once one get mentioned, just sincerely agree to not go that route anymore, and move on. Your preferences will likely change with time, and evolving from one step to the next is a fantastic experience if done slow enough to ensure you are both comfortable with every step of the way.
Inside tip: Encourage lingerie and toys.
It will create a better bond between the ladies by giving them something to talk about, and give you more options and a more visually pleasing environment.
The right person
Ah, the tricky part! With professional hook-ups you know what you get, and there are no strings attached afterwards, but besides that it’s illegal, we never went that route for a threesome because of the lack of emotional satisfaction. For the real thing there are several options: look in your area for swinger clubs, or clubs / bars that have lesbian nights. The swinger clubs are obvious for an amateur couples swap. At the joints that have lesbian nights you are bound to come across ladies that are into at least one of you.
The thing that worked out best for us though is to look online at the place where you can find literally thousands of people in your area looking for just about anything. There are many scamsites, you can read more about the sites we visit and other options where to look in our review and links section. Read our Amateur Couple blog to see what a blast we’ve had thanks to them!
These are some of the actual ladies you can find on there at this very moment:
Meet for a drink, plan for more
Finding a good place to meet is important. If it’s in public (recommended), you want to be able to talk without others listening in. If things click, you might want to take the next step(s) right away, and of course it helps to already have a place lined up where you all can continue.
If (like with us) your house is not an ideal place to go to have a threesome, check out a site like hotels.com a few hours before you meet her to see what’s available and affordable close by. You’ll usually be able to see images of the rooms there, look for something that is classy enough to not kill the mood. If the price is right, rooms with lots of mirrors and a large tub are highly recommended.
